Imagine that you wake up every day with a feeling of excitement.
Excited what the new day will bring.
Excited because you know that what you do is what you love.
Excited because you know that your work is what you were born to do here on this planet.
Excited because you feel that what you do matters.
Excited because what you do is an expression of your gifts.
How would your life look like if you had found your passion and were able to make your career out of it?
Ok, so far so good. But what if you, like myself in the past and many of my clients, do not know what your passion is. Or even worse you are afraid that you do not have any passions. What to do than?
And how come that we do not know it (anymore)?
When did we stop dreaming?
I notice that many of my clients often know what they are passionate about but they are either afraid to admit what it is or do not take it seriously themselves. Why? Mainly because they are afraid what others will think of it.
The passion does not live in our heads; it lives in our hearts. So it is often difficult to find it by only thinking about it. We can find it by feeling and doing it. The problem is that often our rationality takes over in the early age.
Good intentions, negative impact
Do you remember who you wanted to become when you grew up? And do you remember what was the reaction of your parents when you told them?
I often hear from my clients that when they told their parents as a child they wanted to become a vet, a hairdresser, a garbage man, a dancer, or an actor, the reaction from their parents was often negative. They didn’t take them seriously or disapproved the idea. They had much better plans in mind for their daughters or sons, protecting them and pushing for more financially secure and stable future.
Parents who often do that with the best intentions often do not realize what profound negative impact such reaction can have on their kids.
From this negative reaction of the most important people in our lives we learn that our dreams are not important, wrong or frowned upon. We learn that our intuition and instinct to choose from the heart is not good. One of the most important things for a child is to get the attention and approval from its parents. So when we learn that what we feel and dream of is not approved on, we stop to feel and start to THINK what we could do to make our parents happy. That is when we start to use our rational brain above our feeling or intuition.
Our biggest job in finding back our passion is to learn to listen to our heart and intuition again.
How do we discover our passion?
The way I like to explain this is to do this by connecting to your inner creative child. Our creative child is free. Free of expectations of others. It loves to play, loves to be outside, loves to get dirty.
When do you feel free?
What do you do that brings the joy and creativity in your life? Is it sport? Being in the nature?
One of the best exercises to connect to our passions and dreams is an exercise in creative writing. You need to first connect to your free creative child. So go for a walk, meditate, go play with your kids, dance or go for sport. Immediately after that when you feel you are still connected to your creative part, take a notebook and start writing.
What do I like, what do I love.
What makes me feel alive?
What am I passionate about?
Just write, write, write. Do not edit. Do not judge.
Write everything that comes up. Do not block anything. If negative things come up, write them out too. Be free!
The more often you do this exercise, the better you become at it and more creative ideas will come up.